Awkward silence

An awkward silence is an uncomfortable pause in a conversation.[1] The unpleasant nature of such silences is associated with feelings of anxiety as the participants feel pressure to speak but are unsure what to say next.[2] It is commonly preceded by an ill-considered remark or an imbalance in which one of the participants makes minimal responses.[3] When Europeans communicate with Japanese, a period of meaningful silence is sometimes misinterpreted as an awkward silence.[4]

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Remediation

Awkward silences may result from a faltering conversation in which the participants have completed what they wanted to say. To avoid such a conclusion, it has been recommended that the participants actively close the conversation by summarising what was said and thanking the others for their contributions.[5]

When prolonged conversation is expected, people may be put at ease and conversation facilitated by contriving topics. In a social setting where people are meeting for the first time, the organiser of the gathering may propose an icebreaker or conversation opener such as a round of introductions. Conversation pieces, such as novel trinkets or artworks, may be used to stimulate continued conversation. In an online setting or virtual reality, an automated agent may be used to monitor and stimulate flagging conversation by suggesting topics.[6]

In art and literature

In the film Pulp Fiction, Mia and Vincent discuss awkward silences after a pause in their conversation at Jackrabbit Slim's:[7]

Mia: Don't you hate that?
Vincent: Hate what?
Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit? In order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question.
Mia: That's when you know you found somebody really special, when you can just shut the fuck up for a minute, and comfortably share silence.

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Television

The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson features a running gag of an awkward silence between Craig Ferguson and guests.[9]

References

  1. ^ She's worried about awkward silence, Boston Globe, February 16, 1993 
  2. ^ Eveline D. Schulman (1982), Intervention in human services, p. 271, ISBN 9780801643712, http://books.google.com/?id=KkdHAAAAMAAJ 
  3. ^ Margaret L. Mclaughlin, Michael J. Cody (17 Mar 2006), "Awkward Silences: Behavioural Antecedents and Consequences of the Conversational Lapse", Human Communication Research 8 (4): 299–316, doi:10.1111/j.1468-2958.1982.tb00669.x, http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/journal/119564011/abstract?CRETRY=1&SRETRY=0 
  4. ^ Christalyn Brannen (2002), Going to Japan on Business: Protocol, Strategies, and Language for the Corporate Traveler, Stone Bridge Press, pp. 73, ISBN 9781880656730, http://books.google.com/?id=X5jDn2aRnd0C 
  5. ^ Chris Gottschalk (2010), "Exit Stage Left", How to Start and Make a Conversation, ISBN 9781601383839, http://books.google.com/?id=Dk3WSr3d3V0C 
  6. ^ N. Satoshi, N. Hideyuki, I.Tooru, "A Virtual Space Agent that Facilitates Conversation", Joho Shori Gakkai Shinpojiumu Ronbunshu 2000 (7): 19–24, http://sciencelinks.jp/j-east/article/200021/000020002100A0704719.php 
  7. ^ Stefan H. Krieger (Spring, 2001), "A Time to Keep Silent and a Time to Speak", Oregon Law Review 80 (1), http://www.law.uoregon.edu/org/olr/archives/80/80_Or_L_Rev_199.pdf 
  8. ^ http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Pulp_Fiction#Dialogue
  9. ^ The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson awkward pauses on YouTube